The omiai(meeting with a view of marriage) is one of the chance that men and women who are contemplating marriage meet.

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Alphabetical order

Chugen
-(or Ochugen)
-Midyear present

Funeral

Miai
-(or Omiai)
-Meeting for marriage

Nakoudo
-matchmaker

Seibo
-(or Oseibo)
-Year-end gift

Wedding

Yuinou
-Betrothal presents

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There are 2 types of meeting with a view to marriage.
The one is "the one to one", and the other is "party of the group".

The traditional flow of the ceremony of meeting with a view to marriage is as follows.

1) First, you should request to the go-between to introduce the marriage proposal.

2) You have to prepare "Picture taked to be given to a matchmaker", "Personal information form" and "Personal history".

3) The above-mentioned is entrusted to the go-between.

4) The go-between brings the marriage proposal to you.

5) You must answer the go-between about whether you actually meet the other party.

6) You meet the other party on that day of the meeting with a view to marriage.

7) You must answer the go-between whether to associate with the other party, thinking about marriage in the future.

We exlpain the flow a little more in detail.

(1) To whom do you request the mediation post of the marriage?

For instance, "the superior in your company", "the relative", and "the teacher in your schoool days", etc. are fit.

We think these person are good as go-between.
"Person who knows you well", "Person who can see everything by an impartial eye", "Reliable person", "Person who has social position", etc..

(2) You have to prepare "Picture taked to be given to a matchmaker", "Personal information form" and "Personal history".

Writing of personal information form
The personal information form is the one that was written about the following content, and put in a white envelope.
It must be written by pen-and-ink on white paper.

2-1. Title.

2-2. Your family register place (The place of your family records are registered. ).

2-3. Present address.

2-4. Your educational background (career).

2-5. Your occupation.

2-6. Qualification and license that you have.

2-7. Your hobby.
(What are you interested in?)

2-8. Your health condision.

2-9. Your family's composition.
(your family's name, age, relationship)

(3) We explain the flow of the day of the meeting with a view to marriage.

3-1. By what clothes do I have to attend?
The man puts on the suit and the shirt.
The woman puts on the suit and the dress, etc.
If the woman puts on Japanese clothes, she shold not become gorgeous by thinking about the balance with the other party .

3-2. The flow is as follows.

We think that you should arrive at the hall 20 or 30 minutes before tha start time.

When the other party enters the hall, you should welcome them by standing up.

The go-between directs tha place where each member sits.

First of all, the go-between introduces the soman side to the man side. Next, the man side are introduced to the woman side.

The go-between finds a common topic of the leading part's man and woman, and leads the conversation.

When two people become a little friendly to each other, the go-between makes the time to spend only by two people.

You must answer the go-between whether to associate with the other party, thinking about marriage in the future.

You should say the appreciative words to the go-between on that day or the next day. And you must answer the go-between within one week, about whether to associate with other party, thinking marriage in the future.